Have anyone of us would try to understand one to another? From the start of a new friendship, a new light is born between two people. A trust, a bond and perhaps even more than that.
Like how one will share their problems and helping out to solve each of their problems. From listening to a person's story, giving them advices and suggestions, talking with them to discuss what are the factors related to the problems or even lending a shoulder.
Any of us could do that. But how much one will care for another? Friendship can never be treated equally but without realising, an individual would treat or help out another in ways which we might be unexpected. For one, we would do an action to comfort a troubled person. But others could do something else in returned. Something which you would wish to happen but never will.
Would anyone of us would be hearing out their problems and give care to figure out a solution to help out? Sometimes, when having someone to be there to hear you out, it can help to clear out those wandering thoughts in your mind.
There are times when we are at loss of words, we could not give a proper response. Just a moment of silence between each other. But having someone to be there for you, it is already means a lot. Anyone of us would probably not realise it but we cannot simply ask to get all the answers from a friend.
Like how one would feel not to burden another with their problems. Not to make them worry too much. Friendship can grow differently with everyone and it also varies with time. The longer we know each other, we learn to accept more of the flaws in an individual. It is not entirely true though. Have you ever felt knowing someone you can put your trust when we first met?
Sadly, the longer we know someone, it does not mean things would work out each other. Some friendship would die eventually. Because of the exposure we have individually, people change over time. Our way of thinking would be different someday. The people we meet, the conversations we have and so on.
"Why do people change so rapidly?", one would ask this question.
Simply put, people change over the years. Whether to change to a better person or would change to worst. Some people learn to adapt to their surroundings over the years in their life. What I am trying to say, there are no such people who would remain forever in the image you have in mind.
As anyone of us would probably have experienced being neglected by the people who you care so much. The possibility of having our own senses being blinded by our own feelings.
People are selfish in their own ways and reasons. For what I had experienced is nothing different with another in this world.
Silence can be one of the best answer when we are in loss of words. As words can be hurtful as how it can be meaningful too. But with silence, it can also create misunderstanding. When one would choose to stay silent and walk in their paths, untold, unexplained. It would probably be too late when the time have passed and it can never fix the problems it had created.
Through silence, it can also create distance with each other. Have anyone of us truly believe things can last forever? I have, but it always come with a price. What we truly desire there would be something in need of an exchange to begin the process. Without a word, from observing in a third person view, it can only create misunderstanding as one would simply judge or assume the possibilities. With adding sugar into our words, we could be easily fooled by them.
Over the years, people move on. For the greater good of their lives. Sometimes the way we think will eventually be different. But for what we accept someone as a friend of ours, it is what we cherish the most in our hearts.
There are times when we believe in a friend in many ways we wish it is the best choice based on the actions that friend have chosen. But reality is cruel, realization of an individual cannot be estimated. It may take years to do so.
If you were in a position where you look into the prespective of others and try to understand the problem(s) associated with someone, what would you do? Simply put, to put ourselves into the shoes of another. Would you accept yourself to be with them?
Why did I ask? Truthfully speaking, there will be a time where I would lose faith in a friendship. Not because of that person. But rather because of myself. As I usually consider how everyone would feel and think of my own feelings. Am I being considerate? Perhaps not.
The pain of one who have suffered over the years cannot be imagined. What is worst is when that pain continues to grow. A scar which can never be healed. But can only be kept hidden.
"No individual can remain the same but what you kept in your heart would remain."
The past is the past. For the memories we have of someone we treasure them close to our hearts. For the many people I have known, the remaining friends I have, how I wish things could last forever...
Friends can always be created when meeting people in different events. But what is so special with having the current friends we have right now, it is not something which can be replaced easily.
New friends < Old friends?
As those times we have shared over the years, I cannot simply let them go. However, when there are more pain given than pleasure, I think it is best to get away from it.
"What is the point of adding much more salt into a container of ocean water. What is the logic?"
My thought:
"What's the point of adding more pain to yourself when you know its best to avoid it?
Though it kills a part of me right now, this is my decision. I'd rather not cross paths to be hurt again. One cannot comprehend the pain for what I have kept in these years secretly.
For that, I realise not many would understand how I feel.
Understanding, how much have "you" understand yourself and others?
No comments:
Post a Comment